How to Effectively Parent Your Teen Daughter According to Teen Girls ￼
I often say I feel like I’m sitting on a gold mine of information that every parent needs to know.
Where did I get this information?
Straight from the mouths of teens.
Out of the Mouths of Teen Girls
I’ve always known that impacting teens’ choices about sex requires more than just educating and empowering them.
It also requires educating and equipping their parents.
And what better way to educate parents on what works and what doesn’t work with teen girls than to ask girls themselves.
A few years ago, I started asking these questions to teen girls in my classes:
- What are some things your parents do that you love so much you plan to do the same with your own children in the future?
- What are things your parents do that you definitely will NOT do with your future children? In other words, how will you parent differently than your parents? Why?
And boy do they have MUCH to say in response to these questions.
In fact, I never have time to hear all of their responses.
I’ve gotten well over one hundred unique responses, and I hear some repeatedly.
And their answers are very insightful.
Following are a couple of responses:
RESPONSE # 1:
ME: What is something your parents do that you like and you’re going to continue doing when you have kids?
GIRL: My mom didn’t give me everything I wanted and I’m glad because it has taught me that I won’t always get everything I want in life.
ME: WOW! I’m surprised to hear you say that you’re glad you didn’t get everything you asked for. That’s very mature of you to feel that way.
GIRL: Unfortunately, she isn’t doing the same thing with my little brother. She buys him whatever he wants and he’s a spoiled brat. He expects me and my older sister to give him whatever he asks for and when we don’t, he pitches a fit. I’m never going to give my child everything he/she wants.
ME: How will you parent differently than you are being parented?
GIRL: I’m going to make sure my child isn’t scared to tell me when they messed up.
ME: Tell me more!
GIRL: I’m scared to tell my mom whenever I mess up because she’s either going to yell, get upset or judge me. If something bad happens, I wouldn’t want my kid to say, “Oh my God, mom’s going to kill me.” I want them to be able to say, “I need to call mom because she’s going to help me.” I wouldn’t want my child to be scared of me.
This One’s for You!
Don’t you think the above answers are insightful? I do!
And I have many more examples of insightful responses I’d like to share with you from teen girls in my classes, along with other important information that your daughter NEEDS you to know.
That’s why I’m hosting a virtual parenting workshop for parents of teen girls.
Title: Parenting Teen Girls in a Sexualized World: What Your Daughter Wishes You Knew
Time & Date: Sunday, November 6th from 6-9pm
- “The Struggle is REAL!” – Where the pressure to have sex comes from.
- “The Talk!” – When, Where & How to Have It
- “Then vs. Now!” – Your Teen Years vs. Her Teen Years
- “Is She Really OK?” – The State of Her Mental Health
- “Parenting from Her Perspective!” – What Is & Isn’t Effective
“We are blessed to have someone like you to care for us and tell us the consequences. It’s like you’re helping our parents by telling us what they are trying to say.”
“I really wish some parents would have gone to your parenting workshop.
I think that would have helped a lot.”
Go here to register TODAY!
This workshop will not only benefit you and your daughter, it will also benefit an organization I’ve been supporting financially for the past few years.
One hundred percent of the registration to attend the workshop will be donated to SheLearns—a ministry close to my heart in Kampala, Uganda.
While you will receive life-changing information for you and your daughter, you’ll be helping SheLearns continue the life-changing work they’re doing for young people and their families in local villages.
Giving Back to An Organization that Gives So Much
Click the picture below to watch a brief clip from an interview I did with the founder of SheLearns and hear firsthand about the services they provide to the young and elderly in the villages outside of Kampala, Uganda.
I’ve had the opportunity to speak to the girls in their program four times since November 2021.
Even if you don’t plan to register for the workshop, but would still like to contribute to this fundraiser, just reply to this email and I’ll send you the information you’ll need.
No amount is too small!
Your support would mean a lot to me, but even more so to the young girls and families SheLearns serves in Kampala, Uganda who lack the basic resources we enjoy and often take for granted.
Thank you in advance for your support and I look forward to seeing you on November 6th!
P.S. If you really want to know how to meaningfully engage and communicate with your daughter, find out what teen girls say is effective. Join me on Nov. 6th for my parenting workshop fundraiser and get equipped with information your daughter NEEDS you to know, while benefiting teen girls and their families in Uganda.
P.P.S. Please share this post with any parent you know who has a tween or teen daughter and would benefit from learning effective parenting strategies according to teen girls themselves. Thank you!