It’s hard to believe another school year is over, and high school graduations are right around the corner.
Perhaps your daughter or a young lady you know is a member of the Class of 2017. No doubt she’s spent months, if not years, dreaming about life after high school—going to college, embarking upon a journey to a new career, moving away from home for the first time, and gaining her freedom from adult supervision.
If your high school grad is anything like some of the girls I encounter in class, those college dreams come with #GraduationGoals, like:
- finalizing their college pick,
- designing the perfect dorm room,
- deciding on a major,
- and losing their virginity.
You read that last one right. I’ve even had girls as young as thirteen admit this is their goal.
Before hearing you speak, if you had asked me when I thought I’d have sex, I probably would have said, ‘Hopefully by the time I enter college.'
Why Girls Set a Virginity Expiration Date
As I shared in an earlier post, the pressure girls feel to set high school graduation as their virginity expiration date is largely self-inflicted.
Why? Two reasons.
- Again, they want to get in where they think they should fit in. They believe (whether it’s true or not), that they’re the only one of their friends who’s still a virgin. And while their virginity may be acceptable while in high school, they consider it a burden by the time they reach college.
A week before you came to our class, I had set a very stupid goal to lose my virginity before I went off to college in the fall. I did not want to be the only one out of my group of friends to not have had sex. You made me realize my worth and I’ll never forget what you did for me.
- They believe having sex is a relationship pre-requisite. Many girls are convinced sex is expected to have and maintain a relationship in college. No questions asked.
As I’m getting ready to go to college, I think this information is even more important. Reading tweets, articles, and hearing personal accounts of many college students makes it seem like you have to have sex in college if you want to be in a relationship. Thank you for reminding me that sex isn’t necessary.
Whether the issue is worrying about fitting in or believing sex is a relationship requirement, either way far too many girls figure they might as well go ahead and get sex over with before stepping foot on campus.
It breaks my heart to see girls view their virginity as a hindrance or something shameful to hurry up and get rid of.
However, as you can see from the quotes above, the story doesn’t have to end there.
After taking my class, both girls came to realize having sex wasn’t a worthwhile #GraduationGoal.
There is hope for the special young lady in your life who’s headed to college for the first time in the Fall.
The College Curriculum for the Heart
One of the pleasant surprises I’ve experienced since writing 7 Secrets Guys Will Never Tell You: A Teen Girl’s Guide on Love, Sex, and Relationships, is the positive feedback I’ve received from young women in college.
Like the young lady below whom I recently met at a youth conference in Augusta, GA.
It is both humbling and exciting to know 7 Secrets is fulfilling its intended purpose to help girls recognize their worth in and outside of a relationship.
Not to mention it makes for a perfect graduation gift. (wink, wink)
But wait, that’s not all!
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