The best Valentine’s Day gift you and your daughter could give each other?
For her to love herself.
Why? Because girls who love themselves are F. A.B. (Focused, Authentic & Brave).
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These girls also make better choices.
When girls make better choices, parenting them becomes so much more enjoyable.
It’s the gift that keeps on giving…to both you and your daughter.
There is less conflict between the two of you.
You don’t have to stay on top of her about her grades/schoolwork.
And you don’t have to worry about her seeking validation from her relationship status.
Looking for Love in All the Wrong Relationships
Girls who don’t love themselves often look to others to love them.
I have conversations all the time with middle and high school girls about the pressure they feel to be in a relationship.
“For a while, I’ve really wanted a boyfriend, but I’ve realized that I have plenty of time to wait. For now, I’m going to focus on having fun and enjoying being a teen.” ~8th grade girl
I see the relief on girls’ faces and read it in their letters when they realize that a relationship should not define them.
Here’s what I tell them in class, (feel free to share with your daughter):
“If you allow someone to give you value, he can also take it away. And that’s too much power to put in the hands of anyone.”
And girls who love themselves don’t feel that kind of pressure:
“The impact this class has had on me is that I feel better about myself. I now know that the girls I have been jealous of that get all of the guys aren’t as cool as I thought they were. I do not need a boyfriend to succeed. I’m a strong teenage girl. I love myself.” ~8th grade girl
First Things First
You know what else I’ve found?
Girls who aren’t in relationships are less distracted and depressed due to the stress of the relationship.
Am I saying all teen relationships are bad?
No. But I do believe girls should refrain from getting involved in them until they love themselves FIRST.
And Valentine’s Day is a great time for you to have a conversation with your daughter about the importance of loving herself…FIRST.
“Today was Valentine’s Day, the most romantic day of the year; but for once I didn’t feel bad that I didn’t have one.” ~High School Girl
This Valentine’s Day, give your daughter permission to be her own Valentine.
But she may just need a little help to see that loving herself is a precious gift. (One that blesses you both).
And I have just the resource to help!
No, it’s NOT a teen relationship book.
And it’s not another self-help book.
What is it then?
7 Secrets is a self-love book that will empower your daughter to know her worth in and outside of a relationship, just as it did for the young lady below:
“Reading your book, 7 Secrets Guys Will Never Tell You, has helped me to realize that I am worth so much more than that and I deserve respect from myself and everyone else.”
As well as recognize that relationships should never define her.
And realize that she should be her first true love.
Go here to grab your daughter a copy today and help her celebrate being her own Valentine.